I got an email this week from a reader looking for some advice on where to get started. Or maybe some motivation. Some of the highlights of the email were:
Which leads me to the reason I am writing to you today.
I want to feel that same glow but I can’t seem to get past the following that linger in my head:
I can’t do it
It’s too hard
I can’t stick to it
I like food
I’ve got too much to loose
Etc etc etc but you get my drift
I honestly believe my biggest battle is the battle going on in my head but I have no idea how to stop it.
Which brings me to you.
I’m open to any suggestions you might have for me.
This is my reply:
Thanks for your email and sorry for the slow reply.
This is a hard one for me to answer (which is part of the reason it’s taken me so long)!
I totally get the being held back by your mind-set. Realistically it’s why my weight stayed as high as it did so long after I started feeling unhappy about how I looked.
I’ve heard it said that we are often led to believe that our heads need to be 100% in the right space before we can lose weight. That we need to have concrete answers to all of our excuses and know the ‘why’ of everything.
The truth as I know it is that you need to just freaking do it.
Stop waiting until you have all the answers to the objections in your head. Stop waiting until you ‘feel’ like you can. Just do.
I promise you I do LOVE food more than most people. When you start to eat well you’ll realise how much more you enjoy food than when you are shoving things into your mouth or eating random things without considering whether it’s something you really want. I don’t eat a single thing I don’t like. I make a deal with myself that I’ll try new things but if after a couple of attempts/recipes I’m still not a fan, it’s out.
In fact, looking back it’s clear I didn’t LOVE food in the past. I loved that I could use it to numb sensations (lonely when Captain away working? Order a pizza. Nervous at a party? Hover near food tables etc). Food was a weapon.
You need to work through the process of what you REALLY want and what you are prepared to do to get it. I wholeheartedly hated being obese. It made me scared and sad and ashamed. But I was a food addict who did no exercise. In my first round, I made a deal that I would do the best I could and start each day fresh when I inevitably screwed up. That I wouldn’t throw in the towel.
I was probably one of the worst participants they’ve ever had – but it got me moving a little bit, and eating much better and my life started to improve from there. Bit by bit I started implementing more and more healthy aspects into my life.
On a practical note – the very best thing you can do to start and evaluate your nutrition is TRACK EVERYTHING. Literally. I use http://www.myfitnesspal.com and both access it on the web but have the free app on my phone. I weigh in and record that weight EVERY DAY. And everything that I eat or drink is recorded on there. When you see everything laid out it becomes second nature to consider the calories and nutrition of everything you eat. Self awareness is a big and important step.
I hope that helps. Thanks for asking the questions and all the best for less thinking, more doing!!